The generation of "blessers,blessees" and being "blessed".
What blessers and blessees would NEVER tell you.
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Wow, how
times have changed! How times have changed! Gone are the days when being a
female just meant being at home and being domesticated. Where did the days go?
You know when having morals was still a big thing?
Sadly, one
can’t really say but it safe to assume that the new term in South Africans’ vocabulary
“blesser” has taken over. For those of you who have no clue what I am talking
about ,"blesser"is a word used to describe or define a wealthy, preferably
older man, who spends his money a female or females, preferably younger, in
exchange for sexual pleasure. The term “blessee” is used to define or describe
a female who has a blesser and blesses him with sexual pleasure in exchange for
expensive trips, clothes, shoes, hair and other things such as cars, apartments
etc. While this trend seems cool and fun, it has a possible downsides to it. “Blessed” is when the blesse has successfully received
what she asked for or wanted from her blesser.
This trend
seems to be the “it” and if you’re not on the bus you are “not cool” or don’t ‘fit
in’ but all of this has a downside. Our popular trend has a dark side to it, which
is rarely brought to light. The downsides include the following:
- · Increase in HIV/AIDS or STis and STDs.
While
unprotected sex may seem fine with a wealthy man because of the poor stigma of
“wealthy people don’t get HIV”, we forget that these wealthy men can actually
afford to take care of themselves, visit dieticians and see specialists while
using the correct treatment. On the contrary, the blessee, might not have
medical aid or may live in a rural area far from a clinic, making it almost
impossible to get the correct treatment, if she can get treatment at all.
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- · Kills female morals
Morals are
lost-females no longer care about dignity and being outstanding when it comes
to etiquette but rather more focused on selling their souls and bodies. Is it
worth it to allow men to shift our minds to this extent? Those are the
questions some of us ask ourselves.
- · It dis-empowers South African females.
I, personally view the whole trend as a
dis-empowerment to females. South African, females to be precise. What happened
to the days when women would march to parliament to portray the image of
“empowerment”? The days when women found strength and achievement in fighting
for their rights, country, family or basically just found strength and
achievement in fighting for respect as women? I get it, the trend looks cool
but what image are we getting internationally as South African women. If I was
British or of another nationality, do you think I would view South African
women as respectable? What’s worse is if I was a single man told to look in
South Africa, I would probably just decline the offer and remain single because
“my money will get chowed since that’s all South African women know”. The sad
part is that even it's just 40% of South African women, we are all likely to get
labelled the same. It is not just disrespecting or disrespectful to you as an
individual female, it is just as good as disrespecting your country’s females
as a whole. It is not to say that other countries aren’t involved in this, it’s
just to say that it’s sad my country’s sisters are boasting about l about it
with pride.
- · Broken homes
Another sad
downside is the broken homes it brings. We find that sometimes, if not in most cases,
married men partake in this trend. Broken homes, hurt wives, broken children
and angry relatives. As a woman how do you feel breaking homes up? Proud? Wait
until they break yours.
- · University girls neglecting their education
One of the
other downsides of the trend is how some young university girls are neglecting
their studies or education because they are certain and convinced that “blesser
bae” will give them everything they need. I mean sure, he can buy you an
apartment and car but as a young girl what will you fall back on, should
everything randomly fail? When you dig in to your past 10 years from now, what
solid foundation will you have laid for yourself to rescue you from a terrible
downfall? What we young girls seem to forget is that what we do today has a
massive impact on our tomorrow. There are skills one needs to have to make it
life and giving head isn’t one of them. Men are never hesitant to get another
better looking female and leave you. Men are never hesitant to claim back what’s
theirs (the car he’s paying for). Should that man want to take it from you,he
will. Good at getting laid but have you laid your foundation?
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- · Psychological impact on younger guys.
Pressure on
the “level 0” men on the blesser scale.
You have a
younger brother or a son. He finds a woman like you, who loves blessers. Did
you smile? Thought so.
We don’t
realize that as fun as this trend is, it has a psychological impact on the male
children growing up. Teenage boys are more likely to feel pressurized to “get
that girl” by doing almost anything. Is that not where suicide or a low self-esteem
come in? We know that the young guys of our generation dream of being successful,
or are what we call “work in progress”, yet for some females, they aren’t doing
enough because girls of their group prefer grandfathers who give them whatever
they want.
- · Physical appearance
You look
good now, better than most girls but I would hate to see your physical
appearance when your blesser decides to end his contract with you. What females
don’t realize is that men can see you when you are “finished”. Let me explain,
when you have living in the fast-lane,looking down on people, when the fast lane
throws you out back into your lane,you look worse than you did before you went
for the higher life. You think we don’t see that but it becomes visible and it’s
sad to see that 6 years from now we might be able to tell who had lived this
new trend hard.
Yes, it is also
not to say that all blesses chose this life because they were bored. Some
females sadly, live in poverty and the only way to generate money is through
getting blessed. It’s questionable though. How are some poverty stricken
females waking up in their cold shacks with no running water, to sell vegetables
on the street corner? Why is this trend
an excuse for “I don’t have money” when all along most of the women who were
struggling back then made a plan to use their skills such as sewing, to make
dolls or jerseys to sell at the corner?
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Prudy Blue
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Nailed it Babe. This should just end, it is not health at all...all it does is cause a huge damage and pain.
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