So...you're a lady, huh?

"I'm a lady, you can't expect me to run for the bus, it's embarrassing. What will people think? "

"I'm a lady, I can't leave the house without make up on.

" I'm a lady, it's important for me to show this by having straight long hair which goes down my back".

We've heard them all, right. I find it interesting that the term "lady" is now being thrown as recklessly as the word "love". You see a female half naked on stage, with vulgar dance moves, spreading her legs then is referred to as "the hottest lady who respects herself".

Even worse, we praise them and call them queens!!!

I must be missing something...when did the definition of "lady" become "anyone who looks good, dresses skimpy, advertises sex". Look, being a porn star is one thing but being a female who claims to have self respect, then turn around and contradict yourself is another. The another thing, hold up.  When did being a lady mean "I'm high maintenance and will only date guys with money".?

I swear more than half of the "regulars" at a club are the ones screaming out "I'm a lady" wait for It wait for it, "I'm a lady with class bubu, you can't handle this". You can't even handle yourself. Soon as he opens his wallet, you open your legs. That's being a lady?

Wow. Well...If that's what it takes to be a lady, if that's what it means to be a lady, then no, I'm not a lady. I'm a female who believes in self respect, politeness, manners, generosity, prayer and humility. No, I don't "Mac up" everyday, I don't need to. No, it's not everyday you'll see me in a weave, I don't need it to prove myself, financial situation, personality or level of intellect.  I don't need to call other women "skinny bitches or fat pigs" to make myself feel good about my appearance.

I'm never embarrassed about falling down and making mistakes. I laugh at myself, get up and move on. If I have to run for that bus, honey I will go full force. Ain't got time to worry about which boy is looking at me. If that doesn't make me a lady...then I proudly will admit to not being one.